Men, Stop Making These Babies If You are Not Going to Financially Support Them

I know many men are going to find this hard to believe and many won’t like me when I say what I am about to say, but babies and children cost money and a lot of it. I start this writing with that statement because there are just far too many “Deadbeat Dads” roaming around with far too many children who are in need because the proper financial support is not forthcoming. I hear horror stories of men being sixty and seventy thousand dollars in arrears in child support payments and yet nothing is able to be done to recoup the money. Let’s tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth; the problem with this is, their children still needed or needs clothing, food, shelter and maybe a toy or two from time to time.. Many of the dads cry they don’t have the money or are not making enough money to pay the support while in the meantime the children they helped create are going lacking. They should have thought about that before making the child.

Ask me how I know; I know because as a school administrator I see it every day. The child support system is a farce and a big one. Case workers and courts are overloaded and apathetic and are not sympathetic to the plight of the mothers and children who are not receiving their court ordered and mandated due. In many cases you can’t even get a case worker to return a call or email. Men are able to skirt the system with ease and the irony of it all is, the men who do pay in a timely fashion face swift consequences when a payment is missed. The men who never pay are never caught. Allegedly warrants are put out for their arrest that can only be enforced if there is a traffic violation or something else brings the man up on the radar screen. That is ridiculous. I say again, while the man is careful not to break any laws that would validate his arrest warrant, his children are going without. It’s about the kids stupid; the kids.

The sad part of the matter is these same men go around physically fathering more and more children that they have no intention of supporting. Notice I said physically and not emotionally. The question comes up, who is the fool? (That’s the subject of another blog). I am not letting the women off of the hook for choosing these sorry excuses for men, however, when a child is brought into the world an entire host of costs come along with it from the time the child is born (actually conceived) until the child is a fully grown adult. Cora Daniels in her book Ghetto Nation calls it “Eighteen to life,” meaning the parents have responsibility for that child or children at a minimum for eighteen years and could be for life. So for each time you make a child you have just started an eighteen to life sentence. Ms. Daniels does not mean this in a negative manner, but the truth of the matter is, it is an eighteen to life job associated with raising children that comes along with a lot of expenses.

These men kill me with their excuses as to why they cannot financially support the children they sired. It never occurred to them that Junior and Juniorette would need shoes, clothes, food and housing on an ongoing basis? Or is it that they just don’t care? This is where the women must wake up and really understand who they are screwing with before they have children by them because in the end the children are the biggest losers.

It’s a sad state of affairs when a court has to force a man to financially support his own offspring. Critically think about that. The judge didn’t force you to procreate, so why should he/she have to force you to pay for them? What kind of conscience must a man have to know that he has children that he is not financially supporting? That his children are going without because of him? Even animals will fight for their own young as can be clearly seen in the video Battle at Kruger. I have absolutely no tolerance or respect for any man who willingly tries or avoids paying his financial support for his children. Whatever happened between the adults is one thing, but to not support his children is another. Woe unto you my brother who leaves his children out there in need.

Critically yours.